Ever been to a conference or public talk where you felt the speaker was talking directly to you, must really know you well, the message resonated so strongly?
That happened to me on Saturday. I was at Utopia Women’s Wellness, a one day event in Brisbane brimming with health and wellness legends, such as Jess Ainscough, Nat Kringoudis, Lorna Jane Clarkson, Ashy Bines and Tara Diversi.
Tara was on first, with Behavioural Nutrition for Weight Loss. 98% of people who lose weight on a diet put it all back on, and then more. The 2% keep the weight off for three reasons – they hit rock bottom; they have something huge they’re striving for; or they choose a way of eating that is easy to do, enjoyable and they are excellent at. And that’s where I can personally help you, as a health coach.
But this post is not about that.
It’s about the next of Tara’s insights. About perfectionism. Hmmm. One of my strengths, and also one of my weaknesses. You see, there’s an opportunity cost associated with perfectionism. Tara used the analogy of university study – the additional hours involved to shift from a passing grade, to a credit, to a distinction, to a high distinction. Aiming for your best is great. Unless it comes at the expense of all the other aspects of a balanced life. Like sleep. Eating well. Enjoying social time with family and friends. Exercise. Creativity. Spiritual or quiet time.
And as obvious as it might seem, I’ve only just realised I’ve been doing this all of my adult life. I’m a perfectionist. Not in everything – the house is not spotless, and I’m a healthy but not inspired cook.
However, when it comes to my work, I put in 150%. In my 20s and 30s I had two minor burnouts, where I needed a long holiday to refresh my mind, body and spirit. And now that I’m in my 40s, I’m doing it again.
So, I’ve made a promise to myself.
I know I already offer awesome coaching sessions and insights for my clients and newsletter subscribers. That will continue if I put in 100%. However, if I stick with 150%, it’s not only going to be at the expense of sleep, exercise and meditation, but I’m also not leading by example.
Are you stuck in this rut too, of trying to do too much, too well, too consistently? What needs to change? How can you make this happen? Who will support you or guide you through the steps? What difference will this change make to your life? Why is this important to you?
I’d love to hear your story. Comment below. Not only are you more likely to do it if you put it out there, but you’ll have others supporting you in the change too.
And thank you! For being here. For reading. For challenging yourself to change. For holding me to my promises. For being passionate about your health and wellness, and those around you.
Together, let’s spread this message, create a health and wellness revolution, encourage more people to thrive, not just survive!