I hereby resign my position of superwoman, effective immediately.
Can I tempt you to do the same? Because I’m fairly sure I’m not the only one taking on too much, performing a never ending juggle of work, family, life, health, exercise, finances – and dropping my ‘bundle’ every now and then. Down time is rare. Can you think of a woman that doesn’t? Calm, content, relaxed women are scarce.
Is it because we equate not being busy with boring? Or because we feel we don’t have a choice? Or perhaps we just don’t know how to make it happen? Or maybe because we feel valuable and important when we don’t have a minute to spare?
I have a confession to make. I am writing this post to remind myself that what I aspire to – making the most of the important things in my life, rather than taking on whatever is in front of me at very moment I am able to take on another task – is achievable. And highly desirable.
Whenever I talk a long walk on the beach or in the bush, my peaceful thoughts allow me to reflect on how blessed I am. For me that means family, health, good food, fresh air and abundant choices.
What does it mean for you? Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and really consider what is important to you.
Great! Now, those wonderful things that came to mind, do you get enough of them?
No? Then, what needs to change? What can you do to make the most of this one precious life of yours? Because who ever lies on their death bed wishing they had worked harder / cleaned more often / stressed more?
Are there activities you could reduce to provide more time for the good stuff? This might mean swapping a few hours of TV for a yoga session or zumba class each week, or cooking a larger quantity to cater for two or three meals rather than one.
Are there ways you could chunk tedious tasks to become more time effective? This could be consolidating your errands into one outing, rather than scattered throughout the week.
Could you delegate others tasks, perhaps to your kids or to paid professionals? This might be unpacking the dishwasher, cleaning the house or balancing the accounts.
If you commute to work, might your employer be happy for you to work from home on some days, to reduce travel time? If you don’t see enough of your children, might you be able to arrange an early departure from work one day per week? If you find it hard to find time to meditate, could you lie in bed for an extra five minutes in the morning, enjoying a more relaxed beginning to your day? If you feel there’s never enough time in your week for fun, could you schedule a date night with a friend or partner?
Some of these steps may require asking favours of friends. If this is hard to do, why not offer a swap, such as “would you mind looking after our children for a few hours this week and we can do the same for you next week?” It might work so well that it becomes a monthly arrangement. And here’s something else that might come as a surprise – friends often like being asked for help. We don’t have to do it all alone.
Alternatively, if you have a friend who loves cleaning but hates cooking, and you are the opposite, why not barter your services?
Now, I’m off to make this happen. What about you?