Have you ever scoffed an entire family-size pack of chips, crackers or biscuits? Plowed through pizza or cake until you felt sick? Drank more coffee or wine than you wanted to?
How were you feeling while doing so?
I ask because most of us overeat to distract from emotional pain. Not because we’re hungry. What we are is lonely. Or angry. Or sad. Or resentful. Or frustrated. Or something else.
It’s not an eating ‘disorder’, but a relationships or career or satisfaction disorder.
What hurt are you holding on to?
One way to address these uncomfortable feelings is forgiveness.
If you’ve been allowing your present health to be controlled by past hurts, I encourage you to commit to forgiving, even though it’s not easy. These steps can help:
· Talk with sympathetic friends and family about your desire to forgive – chatting with others is tremendously comforting.
· If there is a particular person you’d like to forgive, write them a letter – you can decide whether or not you send it.
· See the situation from the other person’s perspective – your own perspective may change.
· Don’t forget to forgive yourself – sometimes we can be harshest with ourselves.
· Understand that you are responsible for your own attitude. Don’t let holding a grudge keep you from feeling free, open and powerful in your own life.
With forgiveness, your relationship with food may well become easier.