Welcome to Relocation Recap, a regular feature on the Health & Wellness Revolution blog – sharing the relocation experiences of people from across the world.
Feeling alone is a common challenge of relocation.
This interview series aims to shines light on the many ways you can feel more connected, inspired and capable when moving from your comfort zone to somewhere new and unfamiliar.
You may well read about someone who faced similar challenges to your own, and surmounted them. As you can too.
If you, or anyone you know, would like to be featured in this interview series, please contact Kylie here.
Welcome Fiona, thank you for joining us!
Where do you live now, and where have you lived?
Fawcett, Victoria, Australia for 18 months, previously Adelaide, Perth and Melbourne. I’ve had many relocations across Australia.
What do you do, what ‘hats do you wear’, how do you spend your time, paid and unpaid?
I’m the CEO and Founder of “The Networking Formula” and an MLM/Network Marketing business transformation and training expert. I combine a unique mix of Life Coaching processes and Law of Attraction philosophies in empowering other networkers to transform not only themselves and their businesses, but those of their teams and communities. Currently, I run my MLM/Network Marketing business, a personal development consultancy and life coaching practice from home, and I’m proprietor of a boutique retreat venue and luxury B&B. I regularly blog here.
When not coaching clients, blogging or writing, I can be found on my 50 acre property with my partner Lars – an IT Architect and Microsoft MVP – sons Jordan and Christian, German Shepherd Maia and two rescue cats Boots and Paddy, swimming, playing tennis or motor racing.
What have you gained by relocating?
This property is the absolute property of my dreams that I have been visualizing since my early 20s. I have gained satisfaction from attracting it to me and have created a lifestyle most would envy. The community around us is amazing. Just recently we were hooked up to the NBN on satellite and have internet speeds to rival most capital cities. I pretty much get to do what I want when I want and enjoy my pool, sauna and tennis court regularly. There’s just nothing I don’t like about living here to be honest. It’s been the best move I have ever made.
What have been some of the challenges?
Initially the challenge was definitely internet, meaning client meetings via Skype were difficult. We spent a lot of time at our local café and Library. The second challenge is definitely the distances to travel. My son goes to school in Mansfield which is around 65km one way. He does catch a bus from the end of our road which is 15 minutes in the car. Melbourne is just under 2 hours in the car. We do, however, travel to Melbourne once a week and make it productive time by listening to uplifting CDs or trainings in the car and work on the train.
What have you learned, about yourself and others?
Living in a predominantly farming community and being a vegan and animal liberationist, I’ve really had to hold my tongue with respect to certain practises that locals carry out, and keep my mouth shut and my opinions to myself on occasions. Everything you do when you live on land has a flow on effect to others and really I’ve learned that the only way to get things done is to do it as a community. I feel like it’s living how I grew up though – knowing everyone around you which I feel has been lost in the cities over time. Everyone cares about everyone around them which has been a really beautiful lesson to learn too.
What would you have missed out on, had you stayed in one place?
I think I would have missed the connection with those around me. I haven’t really lived in many places where I have quite literally known every single person around me and caught up on a regular basis. It’s lovely and very welcome. When someone is in need, everyone pulls together to help out which I love. I definitely have quality of life where I live now that I have never previously had. I’ve met and build relationships with so many wonderful people. We’ve really lucked out in moving to a very small and closely connected community.
Did your physical and emotional health improve or decline after relocating?
My health has definitely improved. If I start to get a sniffle or a cough, I’m straight in the sauna now to sweat it out. I thoroughly enjoy starting my day looking out over my beautiful manicured gardens meditating and walking throughout with the dog off lead. I’ve never really been able to do that before. If I feel a bit stressed, I just head up to the back paddock with the dog, sit on a log and look out over the stunning hills. Instantly calming. No noise. No traffic. No pollution. Just complete serenity.
What did you do to feel as healthy, capable and happy as possible while relocating?
The moving process was probably one of the most stressful I can remember. The removalist basically refused to finish the job, leaving our old house one third full of our stuff and demanding thousands of dollars extra to finish up. We had little choice as we were very close to our settlement date. My partner and ex-husband spent a 17 hour day moving the last of our belongings while I stayed at home with my 9 year old autistic son and 11 week old baby. Needless to say, none of us were particularly well after that episode. It was a very hectic time but happily it’s behind us now.
When and if you experience self-doubt, fear or stress, how do you embrace these feelings and move on?
I don’t generally suffer from fear at all anymore these days. I’m very much an action taker. Stress is still a bit of an issue for me – I do tend to major on minors for some strange reason. But I am working with a coach to work through those issues. Most of the time I bury myself in doing what I love and any negative feelings tend to evaporate. I do enjoy meditating, visualizing, reading personal development books, walking around the property with the dog, working out, listening to podcasts, CDs etc to keep my vibration high.
What would you say to others contemplating a relocation?
Firstly I would say to just create a goal of where you want to be. Be as specific as possible, even down to what colour the house is. You would quite literally freak out if you saw the picture I drew when I was 21 and the house I live in now. I pulled it out the other day and got chills. Right down to the fence, believe it or not! Just make a decision on where you want to be. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you to get there. In fact, the longer the better, because it will make you appreciate it all the more. If someone had showed me a picture a few years ago of where we live now, I would not have believed it. But it’s been worth the wait.
What would you say to yourself if you were contemplating another relocation?
I seriously doubt that I will ever relocate again. Having said that, I have moved every 4 years on average, so my partner is currently chasing me to sign a contract stating that we will never move again. I look at realestate.com.au every once in a while and put in the variables of “pool, tennis, sauna, spa, cottage” (we run a B&B as well) and nothing ever comes up much under $10 million. So I think for that very reason, we won’t be looking to go anywhere anytime soon. Not just the money side of it, most of those properties are located in Queensland and I hate humidity and given how raw the moving experience still is, I have no interest. I love the community I live in. It’s really the people that keep us here to be honest. We are 18 months in and I have absolutely no plans at all whatsoever. Unless of course I could buy something in southern Germany similar for half of what we paid here. LOL
Anything you’d like to add?
As I said above, I’ve moved on average every 4 years. I moved from Adelaide in 1992 to Perth and stayed 5 years and lived in 8 properties in that time. I lived in 1 property in Melbourne from 1997 – 1999. I lived in 3 properties in Adelaide when I moved back there in 1999 and left in 2007. Since living in Victoria I’ve lived in now 4 properties. I’ve moved around a LOT! But I don’t regret any of it. It was costly, yes. But over time I’ve learned what I do like, what I don’t like and now feel as though I am living in the perfect place for me. I would encourage people to move around a bit. Get a feel for different places, different people. Only through doing that will you really know what you like and don’t like. I don’t regret any of it and would do it all again if I had the opportunity. Even when I travel, I hardly ever stay in the same place twice. I love variety, but think I’ll be staying put for the moment.
Thank you Fiona!
Now back to you, dear reader – are you contemplating relocating?
Check these out:
Relocation Ready: a mini-course, FREE to join
Relocation Health Resources: articles, recipes, tips, FREE
Your Relocation Solution: be healthy and happy wherever you are: a guidebook for women wishing to feel connected, inspired and capable when moving from their comfort zone
Healthy Relocation Coaching: one-on-one coaching program, tailored to your situation and needs
And please comment below, your thoughts, ideas, experiences and challenges are welcome and appreciated.